Love is the home of the divine on earth and the quality that makes us human beings. Love and sexuality are sources of life. We see it as an essential task to create ways of living that integrate these sources in a conscious and positive way. “Free Love” in this sense for us is an all encompassing cultural work to heal these sources of life.
A peaceful culture is rooted in solidarity between the sexes. Many people see the issues of love and sexuality as exclusively personal affairs and try to solve them in private or within the framework of therapy. We see love as a political issue as social and cultural changes are needed for the development of love.
In the patriarchal era sensual love and sexuality were connected to guilt, shame and fear. They were split into a lived and a suppressed part. Men and women are confronted with this historical heritage. The resulting conflicts can hardly be dealt with inside a relationship as they are rooted elsewhere. “It takes a whole village to support the love of two people” we often say, inspired by Sobonfu Somé. What a couple goes through in the end moves everyone who is in touch with them. If communication about love is cultivated love can become more free of the fear of abandonment, lies and pretense. The bigger the social and mental/spiritual context for love is, the more we are able to handle difficulties in a playful and unidentified way, the less we depend on this one moment of fulfilment, the less we tend to accusations, the more truth we will risk and the more power and love we have to give to the world.
Community for us is a lifestyle in which the healing of love can take place in a stable surrounding. The following research conditions are needed:
- the full commitment to be responsible for love oneself,
- awareness of our historical conditioning
- a spiritual foundation
- a conscious approach to one`s own sexual being
- developing self esteem and the capacity to love beyond the partner
- integration of couples and families in a larger social network
- respectful communication between men and women, as well as among women and men.
In the community, lovers can open to both the inner and outer movements that love needs to stay alive. Where trust is present, love begins, often by itself, to expand and include more people - this also applies to erotic and sexual love. This leads organically to the formation of a network of relationships where each person has their place: a tapestry of varying intimacies, intensities and qualities.
ZEGG members live in various kinds of relationships. These include long term partnerships and spontaneous erotic adventures, relationships between women and between men and sexual friendship with more than one person. We cultivate communication about love issues in men`s and women`s groups and in the Forum. We treat love as one of life`s most significant opportunities for learning.
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